Not all tamariki are the same when it comes to toilet training. You may see signs that your child is ready for toilet training from around 2 years old. Some tamariki may be ready from as early as 18 months. Some may be older than 2 years.
Tamariki may show a range of signs when ready for toilet training. You don't need to see all of these signs. Look for a general pattern to know when it's time to begin toilet training. Teachers or other whanau members may notice signs that your child is ready for toilet training.
Tamariki can start toilet training using the toilet or a potty. Some tamariki may like one better, but you can encourage your child to use both. The potty is easier to move around, and some children find it less scary at first.
A footstool can help your child get up to the toilet seat and gives them somewhere to rest their feet when sitting.
A smaller seat that fits within the bigger seat will allow your child to sit comfortably on the toilet.
If your child is no longer wearing a nappy, they are more likely to understand that they need to use the toilet or potty. Training pants and pull-ups are less absorbent than nappies. They can hold any accidents that may happen. Pull-ups help tamariki get used to wearing underwear.
See the Raising Children Australia website for more guidance on what equipment to use. [1]
Letting your child set the pace when they are toilet training is important. It’s not helpful to force them to learn too fast.
You can prepare them for toilet training by teaching them words such as ‘poo’ and ‘wee’. You can put wet and dirty nappies into the potty after you’ve changed your child. This can help them to understand what a potty is used for.
The Raising Children Australia website has more tips on preparing your child for toilet training. [2]
Make sure your child drinks plenty of water. It is important to have lots of fibre in their diet. Water and fibre help to keep their poo soft so they don’t get constipated. Constipation can make toilet training more difficult.
See the KidsHealth page on constipation for more information [3]
Aim to start toilet training when no big changes are coming up for your whānau. It is also helpful to start on a day when you aren’t planning to leave the house. You will need time to help guide your child on their toilet training journey.
Raising Children Australia has lots of information on how to get started with toilet training. [1]
It has tips on things such as:
Starting toilet training is easier when you can stay close to home for a few days. But you will need to leave the house at some stage, so it’s helpful to prepare.
When you are away from home, you can:
Bedwetting is common, even in school-aged tamariki. Staying dry overnight can take longer than daytime toilet training. If your child regularly has a dry nappy first thing in the morning, you can try and stop nappies at night.
See the KidsHealth page on bedwetting for more information [5]
Accidents will happen while your child is toilet training. Some tamariki might get upset if they have an accident. Reassure your child that it’s OK.
To avoid accidents, take your child to the toilet as soon as they tell you or show you they need to go. Check with your child if they need to go toilet before an outing or activity. It may also be helpful to check regularly if they need to use the toilet, especially if they are busy.
Having a toilet or potty nearby can help lessen the chance of accidents. Asking your child to wee just before bed may help keep them dry overnight. This can also help get them into a good routine.
It is quite common for some children to start to wee or poo in their pants again. This may happen if something changes in their life, such as getting a new sibling. It’s OK if this happens.
Some things you can try include:
Some children may experience soiling if they are constipated. Constipation can block and stretch the bowel. When the bowel gets overloaded, poo can trickle down or overflow. Often this happens without a child noticing. If you are worried this is happening with your child, talk to your healthcare professional.
See the KidsHealth page on soiling for more information [6]
Toilet training can be an exciting stage of development for your child.
Here are some other tips for toilet training for your child:
Toilet training can be a stressful and frustrating time for parents and whānau. If you are finding it difficult, there is support available.
You can reach out to PlunketLine, your Well Child provider or your healthcare professional if:
Call PlunketLine 24 hours a day, 7 days a week on 0800 933 922 for parenting advice.
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The Raising Children Australia website has a page on toilet training explained with pictures. [7]
This page last reviewed 06 December 2023.
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Links
[1] https://raisingchildren.net.au/preschoolers/health-daily-care/toileting/toilet-training-guide
[2] https://raisingchildren.net.au/preschoolers/health-daily-care/toileting/toilet-training-guide#getting-started-with-toilet-training-nav-title
[3] https://www.kidshealth.org.nz/constipation
[4] https://www.takai.nz/find-resources/activities/getting-ready-for-toilet-learning/
[5] https://www.kidshealth.org.nz/bedwetting
[6] https://www.kidshealth.org.nz/soiling
[7] https://raisingchildren.net.au/toddlers/health-daily-care/from-nappy-to-toilet/toilet-training-pictures
[8] http://raisingchildren.net.au/toddlers/health-daily-care/from-nappy-to-toilet/toilet-training-pictures
[9] https://www.plunket.org.nz/caring-for-your-child/hygiene-and-daily-care/poos-nappies-and-toilet/toilet-training-your-child/#toilet-training-tips
[10] http://www.plunket.org.nz/caring-for-your-child/hygiene-and-daily-care/poos-nappies-and-toilet/toilet-training-your-child/#toilet-training-tips
[11] https://www.kidshealth.org.nz/contact?from=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.kidshealth.org.nz%2Fprint%2F2861%3Flanguage%3Dko